Prayer Request (or good vibe, good thoughts, etc).

He is currently homeless (though thank the Lord still employed).

He has asked for my help in finding a job closer to us so he can see the girls more often.

He asked that I help him find a job and if I would mind if he lived in my garage until he found a place to live.

I am asking around if anyone knows any trucking (CDL Class A) or warehouse/supply/forklift jobs are available around here. So if everyone could keep their eyes and ears open please???

At the very least I am asking for prayers that he gets resettled somewhere for the girls sake.

Hannah would love for him to live with us. I told him that under no circumstances would I make him stay in the garage. He could use a spare room or stay with my parents.

I just want him to succeed for the girls. He needs to be a positive influence and role model for them.

Thanks for any support and prayers. 

I hope you aren't even going to consider letting him move into your home...

Tell him to check the Employment Security Commission website as well as the want ads online for the Sun Journal.
He can also apply to the local temp agencies - both Holden and TESI. Both handle permanent position hiring for several local companies. (don't let the word temp fool you - they do the vetting for companies who don't want to deal with the hiring process.)

As far as being a positive influence and role model for them, that's a little too late. One daughter is already married, another is getting ready to graduate HS and your third is no longer a baby. 

I know LMK.... I know.... I still hope and pray that he will have an epiphany. But....

Until then, looking out for me and mine is best. I will not allow him to live in my garage. I would allow him to stay here for a couple days until he found some place to live and my parents would allow him to stay with them longer than that because he is the father of their grandchildren.

Just gotta get him a job. Ultimately I think he will find a place up there where he is and keep the job he has.

Prayers that things work out and I don't lose the child support while I am being furloughed..... Sigh...

Thanks for the tips on Tesi and Holden. Knew about Tesi but not Holden.

I am going to dig and see if I have any of his old resumes in the papers in my garage.

And wish, hope, pray and channel for the best. 

He's a big boy - it's up to him to take care of business.

Looking out for you and yours would be to let him go rent a room at the Hostess House or that place over by Bojangles.

If he's employed and homeless, more than likely he wasn't paying his rent/mortgage, so he should have some cash.

Don't make his problems, yours.

Big mistake having a conversation with Hannah about this - if he doesn't come to stay, once again she'll be disappointed and you'll get the blame for it.

Good Luck with that... 

Yeah why do you have to find him a job?! Is he not a grown adult?

Let him figure it out on his own. 

I look at it as this:

If I help him get a job, I can feel more comfortable knowing I would get the child support.

(Looking out for me and mine)... 

If you help him get a job, you can potentially be putting a personal or professional relationship in jeopardy if your ex decides to flake out on a position you helped him obtain.

Havelock/New Bern/Base is a very small world. If he screws up, it will reflect directly on you if you had a hand in him obtaining employment... 

Oh lord. Hope this doent bring you added stress.
My ex can go suck a fat ____ before i even so much as want to piss on him to put a fire out. 

Didn't read all of the answers, but wanted to tell you that there are quite a few in my area. You know where I am and I can send you links tomorrow if you'd like. 

Thanks Jersey.... I have not heard one word from him since his phone call. Don't know what he is doing, where he is living, if he is working or even if he is breathing. Never got his work experience in the mail to do his resume.

Guess he figured out all his stuff on his own. Or just fell off the earth.

Praying that he does the right thing and if I can help him do the right thing then so be it.

I would love for him to get an overseas contracting job. 

Palm to forehead...

Vicky,
You can't fix people. After this latest episode, do you really want him to FINALLY step up for your girls?

I'm no clairvoyant, but, it ain't gonna happen.

Probably just another excuse for him to dodge child support or any other commitment he may have with the girls. 

I agree with you LMK. I just feel that if "I" do everything that "I" can then "I" can't be blamed.

I have always thought "It's my fault" when things go bad. Even if it's someone else's fault.

He will be fine. He's 50 years old.

My girls will be fine either way. We do what me must to "make it happen".

I hope he continues to pay child support but if he doesn't then there is nothing I can do but to continue to move forward and raise the girls the best I can.