I'm late 20's, 2 kids, and have had a tubal ligation about 3 years ago. Lately, I have that feeling, the "i'm pregnant" feeling. Problem is, we don't want any more kids, that's the reason for the tubal. We're finally financially secure, and the youngest is almost old enough to go to school, and i'm graduating this spring, and want to go back to work. (We don't want to ever put the kids in daycare). I haven't taken a test yet, but i'm at an impasse- I don't know what to do if it is positive. I'm not sold on abortion, but we really don't want another. So, if it were you, what would you do? 

1.test 

Allen is right. Take a test. Stop fiddlefartin' around with the "what if" game.

If you are pregnant and you still don't want the child - put them up for adoption before killing them. Just my opinion.

On a side note - nothing is wrong with daycare or preschool. It encourages growth in a child that you just won't get with them at home. Especially if they are an only child or seemingly an only child if the age gap is big. Also, my opinion.

Our first daughter went for a few hours a day once she turned 3 and loved it. She is now 5 and in Kindergarten and is thriving. Smartest student in her class and attends the 1st grade reading class as well as an enrichment program geared towards 1st and 2nd graders. I couldn't be happier.

Our second daughter is only 6 months and stays at home with me. Since there is 5 years difference between them, she too, will most likely go to some sort of preschool/care when she turns 3 as well.

Anyhoot - moving along... 

She is now 5 and in Kindergarten and is thriving. Smartest student in her class and attends the 1st grade reading class as well as an enrichment program geared towards 1st and 2nd graders. I couldn't be happier.


This of course, wasn't all learned in preschool - **tooting my horn here** - but the social skills, alone, learned in preschool has been nothing but positive reinforcement for her.

I mean...she learned that worms have 5 hearts in preschool...

Heck - she TAUGHT ME that.

NOW I'm moving along... 

I'd take a test... 

I would test before starting to worry about an unplanned child. We can drive ourselves mad stressing about things, that more often than not, are not true. 

weird, sure you're not 16?

"omg, think i'm pregnant. What am I going to do?"

did you test?

"no, i just think i am." 

Take a test. If you still don't want the child. There are plenty of families that are dying to adopt. 

Take a test. If you aren't pregnant use another form of birth control. If you are pregnant consider it a blessing. Or put the baby up for adoption if you really don't want it. 

What would I do? I would take a test and if it's positive do the responsible thing and take care of my child. We had a scare last month but we were ready to accept the results. We are in our mid 30's with a teen and preteen and certainly don't want any more but if it happens it was meant to be. Hope it turns out good for you. 

1. Pregnancy test
2. Jump up and down if its negative.
3. Call planned parenthood for an abortion if you are. 

The responsible thing for anyone and everyone, is to not have unwanted children. 

1. Pregnancy test
2. Jump up and down if its negative.
3. Call planned parenthood for an abortion if you are. 

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1. Take a test

2. Come back and tell us it's negative considering the chances of pregnancy after a tubal are very low (although not impossible, it IS improbable)

3. If you are please consider, strongly consider, adoption. SO many families are waiting for the opportunity to be loving parents. 

I personally could never give up a child so I have an abortion ASAP.

Use clothes hanger and a turkey baster. 

User has self obliterated. Oh well ......but I really wanted to know if she was!! 

Yeah. Me too! 

I guess she went and took a test? Ha! 

Dee dee dur! 

Every life matters. Keep the baby, or give to a couple who would gladly make the sacrifice in their budget and lives to welcome a child. CASA is a great program and there is a local chapter in New Bern. My pastor and his wife have adopted two children from there. 

I have nothing at all against abortion and I'm a firm believer in the right of the woman to choose, but if it were me and I was happily married with 2 children already, I would keep the baby. If you are financially secure then the baby should not be a problem in a financial sense. And there is nothing wrong with wanting to return to work, but you can still do that when the baby becomes a little older. But seriously, it's your choice...do what you feel is right, not what other people want for you.